I'm projecting from my own experience here. What has worked for me, might not work for you. With that caveat, here goes,
I can see two problems with your position. First, I think that you care too much what other people think of you and especially of your positions. If you think you are right on any particular subject, or any ideological/political position, stand your ground. The only reasons to change are (1) new facts drawn to your attention (2) logical flaws in your position, including logical consequences that you might have overlooked.
In my case, I have been a follower of JS Mill and David Hume since the 1860s. I have seen no reason to believe that my position is flawed, and so I have not changed. (The social consensus around me has changed, but that is of no import to me.)
Second, you are overly sensitive to what other people might perceive as flaws in your character. Who are they to judge you? Who are they to impose manners of thought and of speech on you? It's true that social opprobrium can be painful, and it's hard to stand alone against the mob. We are social beings and we need companions. But if you look carefully, you are likely to find a few who think like you. As for the rest, my personal tactic is to keep my mouth firmly shut. If you don't react, baiting you is no fun, and they move on.
I'm projecting from my own experience here. What has worked for me, might not work for you. With that caveat, here goes,
I can see two problems with your position. First, I think that you care too much what other people think of you and especially of your positions. If you think you are right on any particular subject, or any ideological/political position, stand your ground. The only reasons to change are (1) new facts drawn to your attention (2) logical flaws in your position, including logical consequences that you might have overlooked.
In my case, I have been a follower of JS Mill and David Hume since the 1860s. I have seen no reason to believe that my position is flawed, and so I have not changed. (The social consensus around me has changed, but that is of no import to me.)
Second, you are overly sensitive to what other people might perceive as flaws in your character. Who are they to judge you? Who are they to impose manners of thought and of speech on you? It's true that social opprobrium can be painful, and it's hard to stand alone against the mob. We are social beings and we need companions. But if you look carefully, you are likely to find a few who think like you. As for the rest, my personal tactic is to keep my mouth firmly shut. If you don't react, baiting you is no fun, and they move on.